The biggest transition made is becoming a mum.
The biggest transition made is becoming a mum of two..
The biggest transition made is becoming a mum of three…
The biggest transition……… You get my point!
Becoming a second time mum for me was scary.
‘What will Alex thing, how will this affect our family life, how will this all work out’
Giving birth was amaaazing, honestly, I kid you not, it was actually good (read more about that journey here)
Taking home baby was longed for, breastfeeding was pretty easy and Alex loved giving Logan cuddles.
So how did my life change? What actually changed?
Well for starters I stopped listening to all the magazines and ‘experts’ that tell you how to raise your child.
I have tuned in to my intuition allot more and ask for advice in a small group of friends who have similar ideas in upbringing.
I carry Logan around in the awesome Beco Soleil (product review coming soon!) each day and rarely have him in a buggy.
I can’t tell you how disconnected I feel from him when I put him in there.
We’ve also proudly breastfed in public.
Something I never did with Alex, I was scared of people staring, having an opinion and the need to express it (we’ve all read the horror stories)
But as Logan flat-out refuses expressed bottles we have no other choice then to feed, whenever, wherever.
First time was pretty awkward, in a small waiting room of the Dutch embassy filled with people (talking about taking the plunge!)
Second time, the natural history museum, they do have pretty awesome feeding rooms with comfortable chairs.
And the third time in a kids café (café with separated area for toddlers and babies to play) that was pretty interesting as quite a few kids were curious as to what I was doing.
All these times I can honestly say, I have never felt judged, I might not have always felt comfortable but I did it with confident!
Last but not least, I enjoy it as much as I can this time.
Of course I enjoyed Alex being little too, don’t get me wrong, but this time its different.
There is no rush, or excitement towards seeing the next step of development, there is just now.
Being here in the present together, enjoying each other, having those cuddles when he wants it.
Laying next to each other and just babbling over nothing and just looking at his reactions.
I think every child being born into a family makes a big change.
You learn something new every time around, you change the things you’ve done the first time on the second time.
You set your mistakes straight and make new ones along the road.
Life of V 
I love that you are more relaxed and enjoying the NOW with them! I hurried my first, and even my second (to some degree), but with my third I am just like you are describing! 😀 It’s divine to stop paying attention to the experts and trust the mama inside!
It is indeed 🙂 I can honestly say hand on heart that this is what motherhood is all about 🙂
Ooh, that’s a lovely way of saying it! 😀
It’s so lovely to hear you’re getting on so well, Enjoy it !
As for breastfeeding in public offer them the blanket over their head if they don’t want to look. I’ve been nursing in public since V was 6 days old and I’m still nursing now in public at 20 months! I have been getting some looks since he looks like a 3 year old. lol Each to their own right. I do wish I was baby wearing a lot more V in the past. The next one will be different. 😉 IF there is a next one hee hee 😉
What is it with people thinking once they sit or walk it has to end?
I’m glad your still doing it too 🙂
Trust me by the time pre-school or home schooling start the broodiness will well and truly kick in 😉
Great post! I only have one little girl (and that will be all I think) and I am totally impressed by moms who rock having more than one! I found you on Valeries blog and look forward to reading your future posts! 🙂
haha I used to think that, and though I have my hands full with two, I wouldn’t mine a third 😉
“Last but not least, I enjoy it as much as I can this time.
Of course I enjoyed Alex being little too, don’t get me wrong, but this time its different.
There is no rush, or excitement towards seeing the next step of development, there is just now.
Being here in the present together, enjoying each other, having those cuddles when he wants it.
Laying next to each other and just babbling over nothing and just looking at his reactions.”
This part of your post really grabbed me. My twins came so early, the scared the heck out of us. I think once they were finally out of the NICU my nerves were permanently on edge, waiting for the other shoe to fall. Sadly as we all know, time flies. I was so busy worrying and trying to do everything perfectly that I cheapened our experience. Thank you for the lovely post and for sharing such an important message about enjoying the stages instead of striving so hard to meet the next Milestone.
Aww thank you 🙂
I think every mum has been at a stage of thinking ‘he/she should be doing this or that’ especially when you have had a baby that has caused you to worry more then usual (and the usual is already pretty worrying at start)
I missed it with Alex, but I haven’t with Logan and I’m sure your enjoying it with your twins now 🙂